How did you become a spiritual intimacy teacher?
My 20’s and 30’s were a string of successes in all areas but one—love.
I won an Emmy, executive produced a travel network, created financial freedom, won figure competitions, became a top-grossing personal trainer, and wrote a successful book on the metaphysics of weight loss. My career felt easy. It seemed like whatever I set out to do, I had the Midas touch… except when it came to love. I couldn’t seem to find romantic fulfillment no matter how hard I tried.
It wasn’t for lack of trying. I studied all sorts of modalities around relationship: did therapy, did courses, read books, but nothing worked. My romantic path included a heart-breaking divorce, being cheated on after a 5-year relationship, dealing with some terrible dating experiences and generally feeling unmet. The cylinders weren’t firing in the romantic zone like they were in the career zone.
On a whim, I signed up for a weekend workshop with David Deida. I found out about polarity that weekend and realized that I was running so much masculine energy, I was attracting super feminine men, hence being totally unfulfilled. I started making some changes right away. My romantic life changed so dramatically, that I dedicated myself to the work, met my partner Justin in that process, and continued to study sacred intimacy for many years.
The traditional teachings served Justin and I very well in some areas, but not others. Justin and I have a unique situation with me being a powerhouse, him being 14 years younger than me and both of us craving a more modern dynamic. We created our own path, which is what we now teach and live.